There are so many excuses we use to justify not going after our dreams. And quite frankly, they piss me off.
I'm pissed off at the guy who isn't going after his dream because he's too busy chasing girls. Sometimes, us guys just don’t get it. And we hurt people because of it.
I'm pissed off at the woman who is too afraid to start her own business, and so she stays at home and watches Netflix all weekend. Because someone once told her that women aren’t supposed to be in business. And she stopped dreaming because of that.
I'm pissed off at the people who claim that they don't have enough time to pursue their passion because they have kids and responsibilities and a job. Because nobody else is chasing their dreams, why should I? And we miss the chance to change someone's life because of it.
I'm tired of the excuses.
Here are 4 of the most common excuses we use for not chasing our dreams
1. “I don't have time”
This is B.S. We always make time for what's important to us. Every time.
If we're not making time for our dreams, then obviously we don't consider them important enough to prioritize. If we're not pursuing our passions because we don't see the value in the pursuit of them, we need to refocus our priorities.
So we must change how we think about this. We must first acknowledge that we aren't making time for our dreams because we don't consider them important, and then we need to start spending time pursuing what makes us come alive. Because if we're not doing the things that make us come alive, we're living a pretty dull existence.
2. “I don't know where to start”
This is a big one. And the answer to this is: start small, but start somewhere, and start soon.
A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step. No matter how small, any step we take towards our dreams can give us momentum, and make the next step more effortless. Pick something very small that can get the ball rolling, and do that thing today.
And the today part is key, because our dreams won't wait for us to get ready. Sometimes the only thing we can do is leap. Take a risk. Not something that will kill you if you fail, but something that takes courage. That takes guts. That scares the hell out of you.
So start somewhere, and start today.
3. “I'm afraid to fail”
Gary Vaynerchuk says, “Learn to love losing.”
I love that. And I believe that if we can get this ingrained in our brains, we'll never back down from a challenge, step away from taking a huge risk, or worry what other people will think if we lose. Because losing doesn't matter, and what other people think about your failures doesn't matter.
You will fail, so stop trying to avoid it.
I've failed miserably, and still do, often. I still care what other people think, but I'm working on it. I care less about what anyone thinks about me today than I did a year ago, 6 weeks ago. And that is the only thing that matters. That we keep learning, and adapting, and growing.
4. “I have too many responsibilities”
You have 6 kids and a job and so many responsibilities and you're too busy to even think about pursuing your passions.
Look, I'm not married, and I'm sure I'm not as busy as you are, but if we're too busy to go after our dreams, we're too busy period. We need to make time for what's important. Maybe we wake up an hour earlier to write that novel or work on a passion project of ours. Maybe we cancel that meeting we're dreading, and go read a book on how to start a business. Or maybe we spend a little less time on Facebook, so we can go after that passion that we've neglected for years because we've been too busy working.
But this doesn’t mean that it will be easy.
This life is meant to be lived ALL IN. It's NOT meant to be easy. We WILL fail.
How bad do you want it? Because if you don’t care that much, you’ll stop chasing your dreams when it gets hard. You’ll stop going after your passion when you hit rock bottom.
The word passion means "to suffer," literally coming from Jesus' crucifixion and death. We can’t escape this suffering. So we must learn to lean into it and embrace it. Because pain is the catalyst for growth.
We MUST stop expecting it to be easy. Give it EVERYTHING you've got. Leave it all on the floor.
Life is too short to be lived with regret. Live it well.
Practical Next Steps
Grab your journal and write "50 things I want to do in the next 5 years." Not 50 things you need to do, but things that get you excited about life again. See if you can cross off 10 of those in the next year, and 40 in 5 years.
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