We are living in a time where we are becoming increasingly averse to the idea of patience. We want it and we want it now. We so easily buy into get-rich-quick programs and spend enormous amounts of our precious time searching for a shortcut to success. Waiting is an outdated notion.
"Why wait when we can have it today?" we ask.
But this doesn’t work, and it never will.
I’m 19 years old, so I get it. My generation hates waiting. We absolutely detest the idea of a 10 year plan. Planning is for the old folks. We can’t stand to think about the future, much less plan for it. We want instant everything.
But we have to learn to recognize the beauty in the waiting, in the midst of a process that may seem long and boring and a waste of time right now. But it's not.
And we must change our thinking from "right now" to "when the time is right."
But in the same token, we see people all around us who are doing nothing about their passions and their purpose. They are perfectly content with life as it is right now. They spend their time on things that probably won't matter when it's all said and done. There is no urgency, no sense that life is short and we will all be gone soon. No hustle.
And if we don't hustle, our life won't be the life that we want, but instead just something that happens by random chance. And I hope nobody dreams of waking up at 50 years old to a life they didn't choose and don't want.
Here is what is absolutely necessary to do if we want to create the life that we love through hustle and patience
1. Embrace the tension of hustling and waiting
Even though these are almost complete opposites, we must embrace both. There will be seasons where you have to go all out and hustle till you drop, and other seasons where you just wait on what's next. We need to find the balance that works for us.
Even though some have the gift of unending stamina and energy (Gary Vaynerchuk comes to mind), for most of us that's not the case. So working 90 hours a week will come with unintended consequences that may hinder our health or physical ability down the road. So we have to learn how much work is too much, and the times when we can push ourselves more.
It's about knowing yourself, your body, and your strengths and weaknesses.
2. How bad do you want it?
How bad do you want the life that you envision? Does it hurt to think about it? Is it hard to sleep at night?
What sacrifices are you willing to make in order to make the vision a reality? What comforts are you going to give up? What social ramifications are you willing to deal with?
This is a personal question that everyone will answer differently. It's about what you want, what you are willing to give up. Some prefer comfort, and that's absolutely fine. Everyone is built different. There is no one-size-fits-all solution to this.
3. The only way to win is longtail
We overestimate the number of things we can do in a day, but underestimate what we can accomplish in a year. So imagine what you can do in ten years. Or twenty or thirty or forty years.
We have to start dreaming bigger than our current situation.
Most of us have rarely thought about what our lives will look like in a decade, much less 2 or 3 or 4 decades. We're too stuck in the place in life we're in right now. We're stuck with the money we're making, the relationships we have, and the dreams we're dreaming.
But we need to continue to dream big. So big that it scares you. And then when you do have that dream, and the timing is right, and everything aligns, it's time to hustle your face off.
It's not always fun, but we can find peace in knowing that our lives will be better for our future selves.
Embrace the tension between the patience and the hustle. Find out what works for you, and then attack that. Life is too short wondering if we're doing enough, but equally is the fact that we don't want to lay on our death bed and regret working too much.
For everything there is a season, and for everything there is a time. Find out what works for you. We're all in this together.
Practical Next Steps
What is one thing you have given up in order to hustle more? And one way you relax and recharge when you're not hustling? I'd love to know how you do it! Email me: firstname.lastname@example.org
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