Recently, I've been feeling the fierce pull of destiny/calling/purpose. There is the constant battle in my head of "Are you doing what you're born to do?" And then there is the argument between my head and my heart of what I want to do, and what I know I'm supposed to do.
I've discovered that there is usually a disagreement between the head and the heart on the issue of calling.
The head (the ego, the mind, the false self) knows what it selfishly wants, while the heart (the inner voice, the conscience, the true self) knows what is best and right and most in line with our calling.
The head is the loud voice of your ego screaming in your face, while the heart is the quiet yet powerful voice of wisdom saying "This is the way..."
I listened to Kris Vallotton teach on purpose in the midst of this battle, and it gave me a sort of clarity on the matter that I've never had before.
Something clicked in my heart as I listened to him speak. A lightbulb flashed on. It would be cliche to say that I'll never be the same because of that one moment, but that's not too far from the truth.
Here's 3 things I learned about how to identify your destiny and know where fear is holding you back from your purpose.
1. You're being resisted at the point of your destiny
We will encounter resistance when we're knocking at the door of our destiny.
It's that simple.
If you're in a battle, you have a destiny. Don't stop now! Your destiny lies ahead!
If you're in a battle, you have a destiny!
We are being resisted at the point of our purpose. And I'd venture to say, that if we're not aligned with our purpose, we won't be resisted. At least, not as much as if we would be on the path to fulfilling our purpose.
We just have to remember that anything worth doing probably won't be easy. Our destiny will require sacrifice, hard work, sleepless nights, and many tears.
But there is no greater satisfaction in this life than knowing that we are doing what we are born to do.
2. Fear will fight to steal your destiny
"What would you do if you were ten times bolder? If it's anything other than what you are doing right now, you and your destiny have been reduced by fear." - Kris Vallotton
I love that question of "What would you do if you were 10 times bolder?" because it's radically convicting and encouraging at the same time.
It's a gauge for determining when we are allowing fear to dominate our lives, and steal our destiny. Because that's what fear will try to do.
Fear will try to convince us to take the easy road and steer clear of the hard thing that takes us towards our purpose. It will lie to you, scream at you, do anything to get you to turn away from doing what you were born to do.
But the truth is, fear is a liar.
As Henry David Thoreau is quoted as stating, "The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation, and go to the grave with the song still in them."
Fear will try to take us to the grave with our song still inside. Let's not allow that to happen!
3. If it doesn't take courage, it's probably not your Destiny
The brave man may not live forever, but the cautious man doesn't live at all.
There's something about destiny that requires massive courage. And if I were smarter, I'd give away the secret.
But all I know is that when I think about the term "world-changer," I think risk-taker, courageous, big dreamer, fear-fighter. I don't think passive, small thinker, fearful, scared.
In order for us to fulfill our calling, we will need courage. Lots of it. And the really good news?
That courage is within every single one of us already! We just need to dig down and unleash it.
Practical Next Steps
Figure out where you are being resisted. Where is your battle? What is an area of your life that you feel tempted to give up in? Stay attentive to those areas. They may be revealing your destiny to you right in front of your eyes.